Recently, I added a feature to my blog where you can submit your email address to stay up to date with HollyHoehner.com. I would be so happy if you considered adding your email address in the pink bar below. I promise I won’t spam you with a ton of emails (nobody wants that). Thanks, and enjoy today’s post!
I’ve learned a lot in my first months in the adult world, and today I’m going to share two lessons that are both extremely valuable.
Lesson #1: Work clothes can be cute if you make sure they are fitted to your body well.
One of the more trivial worries about life after college (for me) was about dressing for work. Today I’m sharing an easy and professional work outfit that I am obsessed with. My office is snappy casual, but I tend to dress more business casual. This outfit is definitely a great option because I’m not actually wearing work pants. This winter I’m living in my black jeans for work.
Believe it or not, you can dress really cute for work and I hope today I can convince you! You can shop this look at the end of this post or under the last photo, if you like! But, it’s so easy to recreate, and I bet you already have this in your closet.
Lesson #2: Saying no isn’t selfish or mean. It’s essential to living a healthy life.
I think a common misconception of nice people is that they are always pushovers. They’re too nice to say no, so you can get them to do whatever you need. So when a nice person says no, it’s kind of surprising. I would know this because I’ve been the nice person in this scenario. Of course, I have my not-so-nice days like we all do, but I’m ignoring those for the sake of today’s post.
From a pretty young age, I learned that I can teach people how to treat me. I wish there was a better way to put that because it doesn’t exactly sound very nice. But what I mean is that I didn’t let people treat me like a pushover. I learned to stand up for myself. I’ve always been a very headstrong and opinionated person, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more quiet about that. I’m not out leading a crusade as much as I used to (which was a lot).
I learned that the way I respond to how others treat me–good or bad–teaches (for lack of a better word) people how to treat you. Despite my sweet (lol) face, I don’t mind putting my foot down in order to stand up for myself. I don’t know if that came with age, but it has definitely made itself prevalent in this new chapter of life.
In college, I was surrounded by a million things I could be doing. I chose to dedicate a lot of time to Pi Phi–way more time than anything pertaining to my major, if I’m honest. So although I could have done anything and everything with my time, I chose to be selective for my own sanity. I think that lesson has paid off after college.
Despite what you think, you can’t do everything. Eventually it will all come crashing down because you are human, and schedules have an amazing way of crossing paths all at once. And even though you’re a nice person, you have to say no if it will cause you to be overloaded. You can’t let others guilt you into it. Time management is so important for your health. Living with a lack of sleep, alone time, home cooked meals and physical activity is not sustainable.
I’ve been so wary of over-committing my time in this phase of life. I could easily be doing something every night, but I have to prioritize what I really want to do and what I shouldn’t. These priorities might change over time, but better to be able to adapt than to burn out altogether.
Saying no can be a little awkward, and saying no because you need some time to yourself seems a little bogus. But, it is so important! I would rather say no than to commit and not do a good job or not be totally invested or dread going because I have a list a mile long. Saying no in this context doesn’t make me a mean person. It makes me a self-aware person.
As much as I love saying yes, I love saying no almost even more. By saying no, I can be fully invested and in love with the things I say yes to. By saying no with a smile, it teaches people that I can be simultaneously stalwart and sweet–my favorite ironic thing about myself.
Like what you see? I would love if you would share this post on Facebook, follow my Instagram account and pin this post on Pinterest by using the icons below! I would love to say thanks, so tag me on all platforms using @hollyhoehner.
Holly Hoehner has her bachelor’s degree in public relations from the University of Oklahoma. She considers herself more of a Russell Westbrook than a Kevin Durant and enjoys learning about and participating in the digital age, blogging about anything that comes to her mind and creating witty Instagram captions. Holly was raised a die-hard Sooner fan in Edmond, OK.