When I was in the fourth grade, I was unknowingly being pursued by an older gentleman. He wanted my love, attention and complete trust. In return He would provide for me, protect me and help me when I felt like I was at my wit’s end. Honestly, I had never been pursued by someone who loved me so much already. I now know that even if I never gave into His pursuit, He wouldn’t stop trying.
Not long after I realized this pursuit was occurring, I committed my life to Jesus Christ. He succeeded. He swept me off of my feet and fulfilled every promise He ever made. He was never grumpy when I wanted to talk and He always made me feel special. Even though He already died for me, I knew He would do it again in a heartbeat in order for our relationship to go on for eternity.
He’s my greatest love.
You see, I know it’s wedding season. I know that there are so many single people out there scrolling through Instagram wondering when they will get to post that perfect wedding shot. I know there are married people posting perfect shots knowing what’s really going on inside their marriage. I’m not going to say I too haven’t wondered if I will ever find someone who likes me enough to wake up to my face every day. That would be a lie. But it’s a normal thing to want a spouse. After all, the Bible says a man who finds a wife finds a good thing. However, the Bible doesn’t say that a man who finds a wife finds eternal joy…or perfection…or total fulfillment…or his great love.
I truly wish that all my friends getting married this summer and every summer after experience a marriage that the Lord smiles on. But I also truly wish that all of us would stop considering another human being our great love. Nobody will ever complete you (sorry Jerry Maguire) or love you perfectly. You’ve heard this a million times, right?
Imagine your life without your spouse…If that person had never come into your life, you would still be okay. Maybe you would have taken a risk that you wouldn’t have with a spouse, or you’d be a little more uncomfortable going to social functions without a sidekick. Your Instagram might be a little less romantic and you might have spent a few more Friday nights alone, but you would still be alive and cooking.
Imagine your life without Jesus…Yikes. If you’re a follower, I’m sure your eyes just kinda bulged there for a quick second like mine did. There would be no way for you to even know what love is without His perfect example. There would be no hope for pretty much anything…mistakes, death, anger, regret, pride, greed, affairs, exploitations. There would be no forgiveness or sanctification. There would be no reason. You might be able to do this for a little bit, but in the end it will break you before you even realize it.
Now, you tell me. Who is the greatest love of your life?
I think I freak people out when I say this, but I know I will be all right if I never watch a man get down on one knee and ask me to marry him. Would it be fun? Heck yeah! But at the end of the day he is not my greatest love. Jesus Christ is. You, too, will be okay if you never get married. There is nothing wrong with you. I absolutely hate that people look down on people who are not married, especially women. They are not unloved. In fact, they are more loved and valued than they may ever even know by the King and Creator of the universe. We all know Paul wasn’t married and he ended up doing some pretty amazing things for the Kingdom that are still being felt today (@NewTestament). He understood that his greatest love, the Lord, was all he needed to find true joy, peace and purpose.
I hope that through this reminder that the Lord put on my heart you will reevaluate the reasons you want a spouse. Treating another human as your greatest love is worship. I’m not looking for my greatest love. I’m looking for a partner who I can worship my greatest love with.
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39
Holly Hoehner has her bachelor’s degree in public relations from the University of Oklahoma. She considers herself more of a Russell Westbrook than a Kevin Durant and enjoys learning about and participating in the digital age, blogging about anything that comes to her mind and creating witty Instagram captions. Holly was raised a die-hard Sooner fan in Edmond, OK.