All fun and fashion aside, I want to discuss the #MeToo movement because the Lord has really put it on my heart lately. I read a lot of anonymous accounts of sexual assault using the #MeToo hashtag. It was gut-wrenching and unbelievable. People being abused this was by family, friends, babysitters and strangers from way too early of an age. I’m focusing mainly on a woman’s perspective, but I do know there are many cases involving men as well.
First and foremost, if you are a victim of sexual assault or harassment, I can’t tell you how sorry I am. You didn’t deserve it. No matter what society tries to tell you, you didn’t deserve it. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been and if they’re famous or not. There’s no excuse.
With every day comes a new claim of sexual harassment. Some woman somewhere claims an actor, politician or musician harassed her…and not just women, men too. What’s really sad in all of this is the common notion that people feel women are objects. They’re a body or mouth that should be shushed and an opinion that doesn’t matter. The recent events of the #MeToo movement is a bittersweet thing. Please understand that I want to treat this with the utmost respect. I call it bittersweet because it’s horrible these things happened, but it’s so good that women are feeling empowered to speak out through the #MeToo movement so we can work to end this and heal these women on the inside.
I’m no Victoria’s Secret model, but like many women, I’ve been catcalled or told to “smile” for some man. It makes me feel gross–like someone is robbing from me what I am guarding for my husband. No one has ever put their hands on me, and that I’m thankful for, but in that moment, I understand even a little tiny bit about what it feels like for the many that have been sexually abused and assaulted. I want those women, women whom I know, to know that they are not less because of what happened to them. They are not less because some coward robbed them of such an intimate experience and turned it into a vile act.
I know that it’s hard to rejoice when there is suffering. I’ve been there. I understand healing from this type of assault isn’t a quick, easy road. Luckily, God knows no time too long or road too challenging. He takes the shame, pain and impurity and wipes it out by what He did on the cross. Even when it doesn’t feel true, I pray you know it is. I heard a story one time about a young woman who was assaulted by athletes at her school. There was even photo and video evidence that the guys were showing off. A Kanakuk speaker came to her campus to teach about freedom in Christ and how our sins are erased by the blood. At the end of the sermon, the speaker encouraged students to write a sin in their life on a piece of paper and nail it to a cross, symbolizing the cross’s victory over that sin. The speaker told us that she came to the front and wrote “I AM PURE” and he said they got a hammer and nailed it to the cross in a tearful victory. That story has stuck with me for years. No. Matter. What. His blood makes us PURE for eternity. What a beautiful, freeing truth!!
My prayer for every person, male or female, that feels like the #MeToo movement gives them a voice is that they know that Jesus gives them freedom. They will no longer be captive to the horrible things said to or about them, or the things done to them. I hope it also exposes industries that make billions of dollars on bodies. You know what they are, and they are destroying human beings everywhere. Their victims create more victims. Millions are affected for the rest of their lives because of these dark industries masquerading as pleasure. Through the #MeToo movement, let us pray that darkness is pushed back and truth wins. Grace wins. Prayer wins. Honesty wins. Salvation wins. God wins and Satan loses his bitter war aimed at ruining eternities.
I want to provide a resource to any of you who have been harassed or assaulted and don’t know what to do. I recently read Wild At Heart by John Eldredge. At the back of the book is a prayer for sexual healing. All you have to do is read it, be it once or a million times, and I promise you, the Lord will hear you. If you don’t know where to begin, maybe this is a good place.
The fun of a fashion and lifestyle blog is sharing the little delicacies of each day–pink earrings or a weekend trip to see a friend. But, sometimes there are things that need to be said. Maybe, through the #MeToo movement, women can speak louder, walk taller and wear more brightly colored clothing because other people don’t have a hold over us anymore. Women can feel sassy and beautiful and smart and loved and share it with the world. We can treat every day like a “pink outfit day” because Jesus has won and sexual assault has lost.
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Holly Hoehner has her bachelor’s degree in public relations from the University of Oklahoma. She considers herself more of a Russell Westbrook than a Kevin Durant and enjoys learning about and participating in the digital age, blogging about anything that comes to her mind and creating witty Instagram captions. Holly was raised a die-hard Sooner fan in Edmond, OK.