Finally I’m through the holidays and back to a “normal” post! My favorite part of blogging, and the reason I started blogging eight years ago, is just writing. I’ve always been a writer, although it has always been in a diary or on my blog. I know some really, really good writers, and I don’t consider myself in the same realm as them because they are so talented. My preferred style is a more refined version of word vomit.
Today, I am so excited to word vomit about whatever I want to.
Looking at this outfit, it’s a great winter work and play outfit. As my close friends would say, a turtleneck is not a sassy play outfit. I would beg to differ. Plus, it’s functional because it keeps you warm!
Anyways, I want to touch on the beast that is a social life as a working adult fresh out of college. I’ve been a “working adult” for just over five months. FIVE. It feels like forever, though, when you add in the added stress of trying to have fun after 5:30.
To be totally honest, post grad has been fantastic, regardless. People make it sound so scary, but I’ve had a blast even thought it has also been stressful at points. It took me a little bit to get acclimated, but I now fully believe that I was made for post grad. Often times in college, I wasn’t having the best time of my life. I hate not getting enough sleep, I’m not a big drinker and date parties are just not my thing. I worried something was wrong with me that I wasn’t “doing college” like many of my peers were.
The truth is, I had an amazing college experience, but it was amazing for different reasons. I don’t have many crazy stories to tell, but I have some DANG fantastic memories with friends that were answered prayers and experiences I never saw coming. I think, in a way, this is how post grad will be … and kind of already is.
Things like playing flag football with a bunch of strangers (plus Allison) who became friends, or last minute New Year’s Eve plans with some cool people that really cut into my precious eight hours of sleep, dinners with dear friends that last hours because you need a lot of advice or coffee with new mentors dropped into my path are the things that will stay with me in this season.
Guys, I don’t know how I can adequately stress how many times God has answered a prayer in this season. Let’s get one thing clear: nothing that I did, do or will do merits the blessings He gives through an answered prayer. We truly don’t deserve it in our sinful nature, but Christ makes these blessings possible. But praying for new relationships and wisdom in an unfamiliar scenario will not do any harm. God hears our prayers and answers them–even if it’s not immediate or in the way we want.
I prayed for new friends. I prayed for a spirit that wants to say yes to God-honoring adventures. I prayed for my dearest relationships to continue to grow despite geography. I prayed a faith like Hannah in 1 Samuel. These prayers weren’t answered over night, and many are still being worked out, but it’s better than not praying at all.
Am I still struggling sometimes to find things to do and fight insecurity in new relationships? Not yes, but HECK yes. I still have a long way to go, but I know I’m closer at getting this post grad thing down than I was before. It is hard to believe it has only been five months because of all I’ve packed into that time. It doesn’t feel like forever because it’s miserable. It feels like forever because when I look back on it, I can’t believe all the work God has done in my life and is continuing to do in so little time.
New seasons of life are weird, but like Craig Groeschel once said, “Your deepest need becomes a gift when it drives you to depend on God.” Struggling in the need for human interaction and fellowship outside of work is a gift when it drives you to pray, fast and spend time in His word.
I’m not the best person to give advice about creating a social like after college, but I will boil it down for you:
- Pray for your new relationships
- Say yes to things like happy hour, flag football and lunch with a co-worker
- Be persistent in cultivating meaningful relationships, new and old
- Don’t take yourself too seriously
- Drink a beer at the brewery, even if you don’t like it, because you have good company
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Holly Hoehner has her bachelor’s degree in public relations from the University of Oklahoma. She considers herself more of a Russell Westbrook than a Kevin Durant and enjoys learning about and participating in the digital age, blogging about anything that comes to her mind and creating witty Instagram captions. Holly was raised a die-hard Sooner fan in Edmond, OK.